If you want to make your husband the happiest man in the world, then start right now.
When your boyfriend talks to you, listen with your eyes, not just your ears. When you are married, there will be many more distractions to get in the way, and fewer opportunities for good conversation--take advantage of them by being attentive to every word he speaks.
When he asks you to do some little task for him, make sure you remember it. When you are married, there will be a lot more things to remember--and oh how he will appreciate it if you actually do them.
When he seems to be down or discouraged, don't ask him what is wrong (unless it is really something you need to talk about), but instead, smile at him, love on him, build him up. When you are married, there will be many days when the weight of the world is on his shoulders, and many days when he is stressing out over something related to work. Learn your man's moods, so you know whether you need to remind him of God's promises to take care of us, whether you need to tickle him and make him forget all his problems, or whether you just need to sit there quietly, rubbing his sore shoulders, and run your fingers through his hair without saying a word.
Make a habit of the tasks that he overlooks. Whether it is throwing away the trash that collects in his car, or picking up his dirty socks, he probably has some little thing he never bothers to do (perfect though he is). Learn to take care of those little things without even thinking--and definitely without making it obvious to him that you "had" to do them.
Learn to make him look his best. Don't contradict him in front of others (or in private!). Don't criticize him, ever, to any one. Instead, tell everyone about this most wonderful man in the world that you are in love with. Extol his good qualities until the whole world knows. When you are married, you may find one or two bad qualities, but since you spent your entire courtship focusing on the good things about him, the bad ones won't be hard to overlook.
Practice thriftiness. Save your money now so that you will have a little stockpile when you get married. Learn to shop the grocery sales, use coupons, visit garage sales, and view GoodWill as the ultimate clothing store. Every man appreciates a thrifty wife. Learn the difference between being a bargain hunter and buying something just because it is a bargain. And when you're shopping for clothes, consider whether he will think that shirt quite so cute if he knew how much it cost.
Find out what it is that really annoys your man, and make sure to the best of your ability to prevent him from ever being thus annoyed. If it's dirty dishes in the sink, you may not find out about it until he is the head of his own house, but if it's hair in the bathtub and he has sisters, you'll learn to clean your hair from the drain long before you ever get married.
Learn what spells "home" to him. Then, whether it is a clean floor, cookies in the cookie jar, his favorite CD or ball game playing, or candles burning in the evening, make your home that haven he desires. Then you'll never have to wonder if he's coming home at night.
When your boyfriend talks to you, listen with your eyes, not just your ears. When you are married, there will be many more distractions to get in the way, and fewer opportunities for good conversation--take advantage of them by being attentive to every word he speaks.
When he asks you to do some little task for him, make sure you remember it. When you are married, there will be a lot more things to remember--and oh how he will appreciate it if you actually do them.
When he seems to be down or discouraged, don't ask him what is wrong (unless it is really something you need to talk about), but instead, smile at him, love on him, build him up. When you are married, there will be many days when the weight of the world is on his shoulders, and many days when he is stressing out over something related to work. Learn your man's moods, so you know whether you need to remind him of God's promises to take care of us, whether you need to tickle him and make him forget all his problems, or whether you just need to sit there quietly, rubbing his sore shoulders, and run your fingers through his hair without saying a word.
Make a habit of the tasks that he overlooks. Whether it is throwing away the trash that collects in his car, or picking up his dirty socks, he probably has some little thing he never bothers to do (perfect though he is). Learn to take care of those little things without even thinking--and definitely without making it obvious to him that you "had" to do them.
Learn to make him look his best. Don't contradict him in front of others (or in private!). Don't criticize him, ever, to any one. Instead, tell everyone about this most wonderful man in the world that you are in love with. Extol his good qualities until the whole world knows. When you are married, you may find one or two bad qualities, but since you spent your entire courtship focusing on the good things about him, the bad ones won't be hard to overlook.
Practice thriftiness. Save your money now so that you will have a little stockpile when you get married. Learn to shop the grocery sales, use coupons, visit garage sales, and view GoodWill as the ultimate clothing store. Every man appreciates a thrifty wife. Learn the difference between being a bargain hunter and buying something just because it is a bargain. And when you're shopping for clothes, consider whether he will think that shirt quite so cute if he knew how much it cost.
Find out what it is that really annoys your man, and make sure to the best of your ability to prevent him from ever being thus annoyed. If it's dirty dishes in the sink, you may not find out about it until he is the head of his own house, but if it's hair in the bathtub and he has sisters, you'll learn to clean your hair from the drain long before you ever get married.
Learn what spells "home" to him. Then, whether it is a clean floor, cookies in the cookie jar, his favorite CD or ball game playing, or candles burning in the evening, make your home that haven he desires. Then you'll never have to wonder if he's coming home at night.
- by Gretchen Acheson
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Yes, old... but just reading and appreciating once again these words of wisdom. :)
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