Standard:
That which is established by authority as a rule for the measure
of quantity, extent, value, or quality.
These questions
might come in handy when God tells you it's time to seriously
evaluate a person you're interested in.
Some are also helpful beforehand (i.e. now) for examining
yourself.
1. Does he love Jesus above everything, yet understands that by loving me he is loving Christ?
2. Has he been a growing Christian as long as or longer than I (is he my spiritual leader, which is not neccessarily connected with time amounts but often very affected by them)?
3. Do I want to be treated the way he treats his mom?
4. Is he physically affectionate with family members and children?
5. Does he want lots of kids?
6. Do kids like him?
7. Is there anything about him that really annoys my parents?*
8. Does he want me for me or for a wife?
9. Has he waited without pining, has he saved himself for me?
10. Is he infatuated with me or does he love the Christ in me?
11. Do I want to spend a lifetime living with him, trying to understand him, working with him, yoked to him, serving him?
12. Would I die for him?
13. Would I be willing to wash his feet with my hair?
14. Have I seen him at his most annoying?
15. Does he roll with it?
16. Is he able to laugh when things are extremely stressful?
17. Does he make me belly laugh?
18. Do I want to gaze back when he looks at me?
19. Will I still be attracted to him when we're 70?
20. Will I be willing to clean up when he's got the flu?
21. Can I feel beautiful fresh out of bed around him?
22. Is he macho or possessive?*
23. Is he okay without me--would he be willing to give me up if God asked?
24. Does he need me or desire me?
25. Do our strengths balance the other's weakness?
26. Does he call himself merely a Christian or does he find indentity in and pledge allegiance to a denomination?
27. Will I be proud to introduce him to my friends and my grandparents?
28. Does he treat me like a lady and a treasure?
29. Has he refrained from wooing me until God's timing is right?
30. Is he patient with my silliness and immaturity?
31. Does he admonish me in a way that shows he knows me well and therefor how to best go about it?
32. Does he understand the crucial differences between men and women and believe in Biblical roles without being legalistic and inflexible?
33. Does he mellow me?
34. Do I want to have his children and do I want to partner myself with him to raise them?
35. Does he understand the unimportance of outward beauty?
36. Is he attracted to my soul?
37. Does he ever get cruel or sarcastic in his humor--does he make fun of overweight or elderly people, etc.?*
38. Is he humble?
39. Does he promise carefully? Does he keep his word?
40. Is he in debt -- does he handle money carelessly? What does he spend his money on?
41. Does he watch a lot of movies?
42. Does he mindlessly soak up our culture?
43. Does he ever poke fun at me?
44. When he's wrong, does he readily admit it?
45. Has it unfolded slowly; has time tested this?
46. Is he off the pedestal?
47. Does my gut tell me this is happening in the fullness of time?
48. Have I learned the answers to these questions by watching him and talking with others so I'm sure he's not doing any of it to impress me?
49. Have we refrained from physical contact?
50. Do I know without a doubt that he is the one and it is time? (If there is any hesitation on this then I better pray hard.)
